5 Signs He May Not Be Mature Enough for You!

I’m turning 30. And I’m totally fine with it. My life has gotten progressively better and more interesting with each passing year, and some age-related setbacks aside (I can’t do it as often; it takes more time to recover; I need to stretch more), I see no sign of that trend changing. For example, things that are different now than when I turned 20: There is no minus sign in my bank account; I have had sex more than one time; I still live in a city but no longer wear a cowboy while doing so. Pretty good right? I think so, but there are some who would point out a stubborn amount of immaturity that remains. This gave me enough pause to make the following list of five signs he’s not mature enough for you.



 
1. His bathroom is disgusting,
This is actually a quote I heard not-too-recently: “John, your bathroom is disgusting.” And you know what? It was. The shower curtain had mold. There were magazines (The New Yorker, not Playboy…well, some Playboy) everywhere, sharing floor and sink space with toothpaste, soap (no dish…what am I, a fancy 


boy?), toiletries, nail clippings and hair that had been removed from the drain but hadn’t quite made it to the garbage (which was overflowing). She was right to tell me. I haven’t changed, but now I hire a cleaning lady.

2. He uses “dude,” “bro” and “sweet” like they are commas.
Being able to speak like a grownup isn’t everything, but it’s a lot. Understandably, women want to be seen in public with a gentleman—a gentleman she can bring to nice dinners, and the theatre—a gentleman who will know that grandma will not like her favorite grandchild being referred to as “a wimp,” because he wears a bike helmet. He’s 9! And everyone should wear helmets.


3. He thinks that he is, or soon will be, a rock star.
I get it; rock and roll is sexy. Guitars are sexy. Rock stars fly in the face of convention and melt hearts (and panties) with their eyes, if he is 30, has never played anywhere but the basement and refuses to even to tell you where he and the guys practice because “no fans are allowed,” there’s no harm in letting him know that you will actually be taking the front seat instead of Michelle (his Stratocaster guitar). Dreams are good, and men who pursue their dreams should be encouraged, but only to a point (I think this was a plotline from Juno).


4. He reads comic books.
This was a trick! I read comic books. I love comic books. They are smart and sophisticated, and the writing over the past two decades has risen to a level where the boundaries between high and low literature have been irrevocably changed. I mean, I read real books, too, but comic books are awesome, you should give them a chance. Start with Alan Moore’s The Killing Joke.

5. He doesn’t care if you "go" (first..or at all).
I know, the sex…always with the sex. But this is a real problem. I know way too many young women who let this slide because they think it will get better, and many guys who are too immature or just ignorant to care whether she is having much fun at all. This doesn’t have to be a question of maturity—he could just be a jerk—but some even-handedness in the bedroom is a sign of mutual respect and a mature partner.
If you look at these again, you’ll quickly realize that they all come down to respect, selflessness and putting your significant other before yourself. Whether it’s not having to be asked to contribute to the household, or his being aware of your family’s sensitivities, issues of maturity usually speak to his selfishness or lack thereof. The problem here can be that women and men are hardwired differently, they and rarely see relationships the same way, so that his “selfish” behavior might not resonate with him the same way, at all. In which case it becomes a matter of understanding your differences. And that too, is part of growing up.


Is your guy ever immature? What’s the most immature thing your guy ever did? Did he see it the same way? 


(culled from: Glamour)